Anonymous said: I'm an INTJ girl and really bad at math.

Join the club of “horrid math skills”.

Math isn’t an INTJ thing, just a person thing.

Anonymous said: How would an INTJ do as a physicist? I'm thinking of going into physics.

An INTJ in any science they enjoy is a happy INTJ.

Anonymous said: The only time I have trouble asking for help is when I am dealing with emotional situations

Anonymous said: I definitely have trouble asking people for help, but only when it's something that I feel like I should already know, or if I feel that it's a dumb question. I don't like to seem incompetent and ignorant.

Do you have trouble asking people for help?

No, not usually.  Followers?

Anonymous said: In class we recently completed the test and discusses out our personalities. Finding out I am an INTJ first off I have to say there are no one in our grade other than my friend who also turned out to be an INTJ. So my real question or problem is where do INTJs fit in? If apparently make up such a small percentage of the population where does our personality develop from? Our surroundings? Please respond I'm still skeptic to this whole personality test thing.

First off: Skeptic stay skeptical!!  It’s important to analyze and question these things—this personality test in particular has some weird gray areas that aren’t addressed in the test itself.

Personality types develop early on (at least, MBTI does) and likely begins to develop sometime during infancy.  I’m not so sure about where it begins myself, but I know that by the time a person is about 2 or 3, they’ve gained some pretty decisive leanings towards certain functions.  INTJ babies are probably going to be drawn to things like science and mystery books, problems to solve, and have rather small groups of friends.  From there, because personalities of children are very malleable, it really just depends on how you personally react to what’s going on around you.

TL:DR, I don’t know, but I think it develops early in life and refines itself over time.  Maybe we’re just born with it.

I just want to thank everyone who has added their input on the subject.  I was in pure limerence with her.  I fought my urges to talk to her today but she contacted me first.  We had come to the conclusion that we will stay as friends and keep contact here and there.  She doesn’t want to talk on the phone anymore and I respect her wishes.  As for the person who stated I am obsessed and that they wouldn’t come near me, I must say, I never get this way.  This has been the first time this has happened to me because I had a really deep connection with this girl.  I don’t think I’ll ever find anybody like her again.  This is why I am probably destined to being alone.  Anyway, I however, would like to mention that I have done some hard research on this feeling and INTJs. What I found was interesting.  In case anybody would like to know, the link to the post is below. Thank you again everybody!

Anonymous said: Anon: I think it's infatuation. You need to try to move on like she has. It sounds like this relationship has only been problematic lately and you need to let her go. Best of luck.

This is a question for anyone who can help me.  This might be long but here’s my story.  For a year and a half, I have been talking to this girl online.  At first, it was just normal “She’s someone to talk to” type person.  Didn’t expect us to talk for more than a week and then move to someone else like usual.  However, 8 months later, we become very close and I actually started liking her a lot.  I never meant to make her push her friends away for me but I, for sometime, had her all to myself for a good 5 months. Between these 5 months I learned so much about her.  I had her take the enneagram and mbti test and she is an 8w7 ENFP and I am a 6w5 INTJ. We have discussed at one point how we want to meet some day and I of course explained to her how I want her to just be happy even if it means she finds someone physically to replace me.  I told her as long as we stay friends, I will be happy.  2 months left, she found a guy which I suspected but her course of action for leaving me ticked me off.  Here we are liking each other and these 2 months left, she pushes me to the side not answering calls, texts, when we were on the phone, she is texting her friends, when she’s on the phone with her friends, she doesn’t text me and i just felt so used.  Like what happened?  I manipulated her into a call and a serious talk she hates having and her words to me were “I don’t know why I’m like this.  All I know is I can go long periods of time without you now.  That guy I met was just so I can stop focusing on you.” That didn’t hurt me what she told me.  What hurt me was those were her actions of doing all of this.  Now we text from time to time and I still love her and cannot stop thinking about her but I don’t let it interfere with anything.  I tried finding others online to channel my mind off and all these others do, is remind me of her or bore me.  My questions are, do you think I really am in love or is it infatuation maybe?  Somehow I managed to believe I really only loved her because I told her things I never told anybody and I want her to not saying anything to others.  So, I tell myself I don’t want to let her go out of fear of her telling others.  Could that be it too?  I honestly don’t know what’s wrong with me or her.

Anyone have advice for Anon?  I know there are people who know relationship matters better than I do.

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